#FRIDAYFIVECHALLENGE @ROSIEAMBER1 ‘Love by Deception’ by K C Barnard

Welcome to the Friday Five Challenge

Rosie Amber’s Friday Five challenge only takes five minutes, so grab a cuppa and join in!


In today’s online shopping age, readers often base their buying decisions on small postage stamp size book covers (Thumb-nails), a quick glance at the book description and the review. How much time do they really spend making that buying decision?

AUTHORS – You often only have seconds to get a reader to buy your book, is your book cover and book bio up to it?

The Friday Five Challenge is this….. IN ONLY FIVE MINUTES….

1) Go to any online book supplier,

2) Randomly choose a category,

3) Speed through the book covers, choose one which has instantly appealed to your eye,

4) Read the book Bio/ Description for this book,

5) If there are reviews, check out a couple,

6) Make an instant decision, would you BUY or PASS?

This week I went for ‘Biography and True Accounts’ and clicked on ‘Women’. So many dreadful ‘celebrity’ biographies. Then I saw this:

love by deception

Amazon.co.uk  Amazon.com

A beautiful cover, looks very professional and definitely caught my eye. The title doesn’t give much away, although I was a little put off by ‘A harrowing true story of love and betrayal’, but the cover had me intrigued enough to investigate further.

Price: 0.99 in the UK and $1.51 in the US

Book description:

***WARNING*** Contains graphic details of sexual violence and strong language. Some readers may find Love by Deception disturbing, discretion is strongly advised!

Love by Deception shares a compelling true story of how meeting the wrong men can bring not only heartache, but real devastation in the most brutal of ways. K.C. is a successful woman in her thirties, thriving in every part of her life, yet failing miserably with matters of the heart.

We follow her turmoil as we unravel K.C.’s disastrous relationships covering a seven year period when time and time again, she becomes the unwitting, and unwilling victim to four extremely deceptive men. Whilst each man was different in his own way, they were all cruel and conniving . Therefore, she has been given the insight into the effects of verbal, mental, physical and sexual abuse.

Although she has the world at her feet, and a jet-setting career working in the prestigious world of international VIP Aviation, for a Middle Eastern Prince, her ability to find a decent man seems impossible. During the most harrowing times she highlights the importance of life-saving friendships and her determination to never give up hope. Amidst all the drama, K.C. is determined to never allow any man to break her humorous spirit, and to continue her quest to find love with an open and tender heart.


Ninety-nine in the UK – pretty impressive for a self-published book. A whopping 177 in the US – 64% 4 and 5 star, but 14% are 1 star. The positive reviews are all very positive – many point to the honesty of the author and her bravery and the fact that she wants to share her experiences in order to warn other women about how easy it is to become embroiled in an abusive relationship. Disappointingly, many of the negative reviews criticise the author for the fact that she goes through a series of abusive relationships, and for her ‘naivety’ at getting herself into these situations. One reviewer calls her ‘nuts’.

Would I buy or pass? PASS


I was tempted, just because the negative reviews annoyed me so much. It’s very easy to judge other people when you’ve not been in their situation. And I applaud the writer for sharing her story and for her good intentions and do think it’s really important that women who suffer abuse tell their stories if they can. But I honestly don’t think I could bear to read it – I’d find it far too upsetting. Do really love that cover though.

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  1. I’d pass. I don’t like this ‘see all the mistakes I made and how bravely I battled through them’ struff – different if it’s something like an illness, or abuse in childhood, but in adult relationships the real bravery would be just walking away from the situations in the first place and living life independently. I’ve seen too many women who seem to thrive in victim situations (and, indeed, don’t know quite what to do with their lives when they get out of them) to be attracted by this.

    I suspect I’ve gone a bit too deep here, ha ha!!!

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    1. I think it’s a shame that the majority of the negative reviews (particularly in the US) focused on that though rather than on the writing. It’s a tricky one, I suppose, because, as in fiction, if the main character irritates you then you’re probably not going to like the book. Some of the comments seemed a bit much though, especially as this is a true story. But I’d definitely pass – I just can’t see what I’d get out of reading it TBH.


      1. I know what you mean – it’s hard not to comment on the actual content when it’s a memoir, though. A while back I reviewed the story of a mother who had seen her daughter through heroin addiction. I was aware when I was writing the review that it was not for me to comment on her life, but on the standard of the reading experience, if you like!!! I think I was about the only one who did, though. Or maybe once you write your own story you become a ‘character’ and leave yourself open to having your actions criticised. Anyway – no, I wouldn’t be interested in reading about someone else’s bad choices in men. I like the cover, btw!

        Here’s that review, in case your interested.

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      2. Your review is really fair – you’ve kept it to the reading experience and haven’t made any judgements about the people involved; that’s what I hated about the negative reviews for this book, a lot of them were horribly judgmental.


      3. Oh no!!!!! I wrote ‘your’ instead of ‘you’re’!!!! Look, it’s pre-coffee…. I shall spend the rest of the day sitting on a hard backed chair, eating gruel!!

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  2. I’ve not been following this challenge (I have too many time challenges of my own), but thought your analysis interesting. The cover is certainly dramatic, but a little too… tea-partyish? wafty? twighlighty? (I haven’t found the right word) for me, especially when combined with the subtitle. I’d pass too, but I am interested in the problems of victimhood, having had a patch as ‘harassment officer’ at work.

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    1. Twilighty? Oh my god you’re right! You’ve ruined it for me now 😉 Although, to be fair, despite the content, the covers of those books were pretty good. And this cover doesn’t really go with the subject matter.


  3. Gosh, not a subject I jump to read, the sub-heading is definitely needed because the main heading doesn’t put it in the right genre category for me. Why not go with a better title in the first place? Hope the book was the therapy that the author needed, but a PASS from me.

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  4. Your analysis sums up exactly what I was thinking Alison – loved the cover but don’t think I could bear the content. I’m with Rosie on the title actually, I thought it was going to be something very different. A pass from me.

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  5. I agree with the previous comments. I’d find it very difficult to read about the details of graphic sexual violence in a fictional context but a true story would be a step too far, I think.

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